In an exclusive interview, Allison Holker Boss talks about her path to recovery and discovering a new mission following the sudden death of her devoted husband, Stephen “tWitch” Boss. After his tragic death four months ago, Allison has found peace in helping those who are suffering in silence.
After a long day of work, Allison recalls one of their simple pleasures as spending time in the kitchen together cooking dinner.
As she passed, she recalled him giving her a tender touch on the back. She also recalled how animated the conversations at dinnertime were. Their home echoed with the sound of their love, which was like a masterfully performed ballet.
Allison, now 35, and their loved ones were devastated by the untimely death of the legendary DJ who later became the executive producer of the Ellen DeGeneres Show.
Unknown to many, Stephen had been quietly engaged in internal conflicts of his own. Allison claims, “No one knew he was low. No one should have known, he thought. “Superman, the all-encompassing protector, was what he aspired to be. ”.
The stark contrast between the lovely life they had built and the suffering Stephen must have experienced on his own has been difficult for Allison to reconcile. She is juggling a range of feelings, including sadness, disappointment, love, and rage.
She is nevertheless motivated by a strong sense of purpose as she seeks inner peace. “Stephen brought such joy to this world, and he deserves to be remembered as the beautiful man he was,” she claims.
The Move with Kindness Foundation, which Allison established earlier this year in Stephen’s memory and is dedicated to supporting mental health initiatives, was established by Allison.
In order to remind ourselves that there are people who will look to us as a guiding light even in our darkest moments, she emphasizes the need to reach out to others when feeling down or depressed.
To spread optimism and positivity through their projects, Allison and Stephen have always collaborated. She admits her initial uncertainty about discovering her new mission after his passing.
She recalls speaking with her friend Andy Grammer about her fears about living out her purpose of love and joy, which had always been connected with her family. Andy’s encouraging comments struck a deep chord within her. He reminded her that her purpose had not changed but had grown in depth and complexity.
He explained, “It just looks different now, and it has a little more depth to it.”. As a result of this conversation’s confirmation of her hunches and encouragement to proceed, Allison values it dearly.
“I’ve had so many individuals reach out to me, especially men, saying how much it affected them because they had no idea how much they were holding on to and not expressing,” she adds.
“I found that to be a lot to hold onto at first, but then I realized I want people to feel safe talking to me, to open up, and to understand that we have to support each other in these moments. ”.
Allison acknowledges her trauma’s toll on her and describes how it showed physically in the weeks following Stephen’s death. The strain of attempting to aid herself, her children, friends, and relatives had grown heavier.
She found peace in cold plunging and made it a part of her daily regimen. This practice has not only assisted her in releasing the overwhelming stress but has also benefited her spiritual and mental well-being.
The loss of Stephen as the family’s backbone has created a new relationship for Allison and her children based on open communication and vulnerability.
Allison emphasizes the necessity of teaching her children and herself that feeling angry or sad does not automatically make them horrible people.