There’s no need for that kind of negativity here, or anywhere else for that matter, so I made sure to emphasize that this wasn’t about physical appearances when I set out to find out what people think the most unattractive qualities in a partner are. Furthermore, they’re not what we typically picture when someone we were interested in lost their appeal to us.
In order to better understand the characteristics that we may possess that significant others or potential significant others aren’t so fond of, this article details the qualities men and women find most unattractive.
It was not written with the intention of criticizing anyone.
It’s possible that these characteristics are preventing you from finding true love or companionship.
After putting out a call for responses on the subject, I was shocked to learn that many, many more women than men were interested in sharing their thoughts. These women genuinely wanted to express the qualities they don’t particularly like!
I eventually learned, after taking stock of all the negative traits people responded with, ranging from lack of empathy to narcissism, that these traits could be applied to anyone, regardless of gender. The most undesirable personality traits were as follows.
Lack of compassion.
I abhor narcissists to the core.
women who are egocentric, preoccupied with themselves and their problems, and who frequently fabricate drama to fit their persona. It’s as if they call you, run to you, and act like they’re your “best friend” whenever they have a problem. However, when it’s you who has the issue, they treat it as if it doesn’t exist and advise you to “move on and forget it.”. Can’t stand these women at all. – Vivi, 28.
A lot of Drama.
A gossipy, foul-mouthed woman who speaks poorly of other women is one of the traits I detest the most. My personal adage is: “If you don’t have anything nice to say about someone, shut your trap!” —Lucie, 48.
Low-level interests.
a lack of interest in intellectual subjects. – Peter, 54.
A Preference for Gaming.
playing the game unfairly in any way. The majority of good guys will perform the “hard next,” as it is known. Meaning that if a girl is not immediately obvious that she is into us, we will move on. – Andy, 31.
Insecurities.
Insecurity and mistrust are the two most unattractive characteristics that prevent people from pursuing relationships further, according to what I hear from men and women as a doctor. Although many people have experienced events in the past that have contributed to their current feelings, the majority of people are not willing to wait for them to resolve these issues or to begin a relationship based on them. – Nikki, 46.
One-Upping.
I don’t want to talk to a woman or include her in any more conversations if she is subtly (or overtly) competing with me or other women during a conversation. When you are enthusiastically sharing a new experience with others, she may mention how she has already been there and done that, displaying this type of competitiveness. These competitive dames frequently usurp group discussions. Marilyn, age 49.
Pessimism.
A pessimist, also known as a “Debby Downer,” is someone who is always very negative. I agree that there should occasionally be some negativity, but it should also be balanced by some positive sentiment. If not, you essentially put a damper on the entire situation. – Jared, 28.
Narcissism.
a person who constantly complains about their workload.
We’re all, like, busy.
Be mature and move on.
Stephanie, age 23.
Elitism.
an individual who uses their position in society—their job and wealth—to elevate themselves. Your annual salary is irrelevant; you are boasting, and I don’t like that. Laura, 32, asked, “How about you paying for my dinner if you make so much money?”.
